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Even in the perfect family setup, being an adoptee can be tricky when it comes to having a sense of belonging. It is all too easy for kids in this situation to feel like they are not a true part of their family. This is only made more complex if said family changes shape over time.
The protagonist of this story was growing increasingly frustrated with her younger stepsister, as she kept insisting that her mom was “our mom”, and denying the existence of her actual mother. The teenager had been adopted as a baby by her dad and his first wife, who then passed away when she was five years old. He had since remarried, and he and his second wife had had two biological children.
She already felt unwanted, as she believed that her father loved his second wife and kids more, as he considered them a ‘real’ family. Sick of being nice about her stepsister's behavior, she issued to him an ultimatum, but didn't know if she had gone too far.
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Am I wrong for telling my dad he either tells his bio daughter that I'm not her mom's kid or I start getting mean about telling her?
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Adopted 16-year-old demands dad put a stop to 8-year-old bio daughter calling her stepmom 'our mom': 'His wife will never be my mom'
When a child comes from a complex family situation, they can have difficulties feeling like they belong.
While it may be true that even those who have the most conventional of families can struggle with the idea of being the odd one out, it can be especially pronounced when somebody has a family tree that is a little more complicated. There are all kinds of scenarios that may lead to kids having different caregivers over the years, and although sometimes it turns out just fine, it can also be a source of great angst.
It is no secret that stepparents can be a difficult adjustment for many children, and the adults do not always make it easy for them, either. Many have the expectation that they should be able to leave behind the life they had before and adjust to their new one without too much effort. This is usually far from the truth, in particular when it comes to situations where a parent has passed away. The mixture of grief and major life changes is not comfortable for anybody, not least those who are young and vulnerable.
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